Food, Fashion, and Fun

Couple dining out and having fun

About a year or so ago maybe more, a friend of mine discussed “the spark”. What makes two people connect past mindless chatter and physicality. What is the secret recipe that yields the “cuddle hormone” – that surge of chemicals that leaves us longing for more. The answer to this age-old question, according to my friends, was simple. Food, Fashion, and Fun. Henceforth known as the 3Fs. Now, this may sound superficial at first read but continue to read and it will make sense.

If you think about it our greatest moments are connected to the 3Fs. Memories are a compilation of the senses, what you see, smell, taste, hear and touch. A good first date or a bad first date is tied to a moment and an emotion. Our senses help to solidify that moment and emotion as wanting more of it or avoid it. For instance, when something bad or good happens to us and we recant the story sometimes it is as if we are experiencing the moment. We smile or grimace depending on the issue. Back to the 3Fs and how this concept lays the basis for perfect connection.

Food: What’s a date without food? Dinner and a movie or Netflix and chill. Good food leads to good conversation. Food is the greatest aphrodisiac. The smell alone is inviting and depending on where you are the ambiance can be sexy or soothing. Even if you are cooking together at home, the act of preparing the food can be sensual. Moreover, you can learn a great deal about someone from how they cook or what they order. Does he take time to cut and dice an onion? Is she neat? Does she take the time to clean the kitchen after cooking or leave dishes in the sink? Is he a planner? Did he take time to gather all of the ingredients and necessary the accouterments?

Fashion: Fashion does not equate to Gucci, Prada, Fendi but what is it about that persons looks that draws you in. His cologne drifting through the air or the click of her heels against a marble floor. It’s the way he pulls off that jogging suit on the fly that isn’t even a name brand. It’s the ways he walks into the room and exudes confidence. It’s the way her hair is swept over her shoulder or the perfectly unperfected shade of fingernail polish you notice when she text. It’s his smooth skin that that seems to glow as the sun shines on him through the slats of the living room blinds. You can see how these moments are tied to an emotion and how that emotion leads to longing.

Fun: The last F but certainly not the least but it is the preverbal sugar on top. Fun is like a checking account. The more fun you have the more positive experiences you create. The more positive experiences you create together the more you are going to want to be together. Fun gives you something to look forward to. After fighting with the world Monday- Friday, the last thing you look forward to is more of the same. Fun is that bright spot at the end of a long week whether it’s planned or spontaneous. I heard a story once about a young woman who for one week straight texted a riddle to a man that she was dating. The riddle was based upon certain locations in the city and if the riddle was answered they would meet at the proposed location. The riddle was such a success between the pair that they decided to do it at least monthly. It gave them both something to look forward to and helped to cultivate “the spark.” Are you getting enough Food, Fashion, and Fun in your day?

 

About The Author

Dr. Beatrice Love is a licensed professional counselor by day and a writer at night. Her passion for helping people in all aspects of life is a major motivation for her when she writes.

 

 

 

 

The Good Life

luxury lifestyle

Sit down and imagine the following scenario.
You rise in the morning from your king size bed that sits on a solid oak frame after having a good night’s sleep. It’s a Saturday morning after a great week for your business. You walk into your bathroom next to your bedroom to shower and groom yourself. Once you finish you go into your huge walk-in closet to find something to wear during the day. You settle on a nice custom polo shirt and a nice pair of jeans and some walking shoes.
You walk into the spacious kitchen to fix and eat a nutritious breakfast. You sit down at the kitchen table with your smartphone to check texts from the managers at your business. Everything is going well. While eating you check your various back accounts and stock portfolios. The money is flowing nicely.
You walk into your living room and turn on your big screen TV to check on what’s happening in the world. Satisfied that the world is still the chaotic place it was the night before you turn off the TV and turn on your sound system that plays some soft jazz. You sit and contemplate what you need to do for the day.
You decide to go for a drive in your late model sports car. It’s a sunny day out. Perfect for a ride through the country side. As you are out you stop by a shopping mall to get a few things from a high end men’s store. You pick out an expensive suit that will be tailored and ready for you in a few days for an important presentation. You get a nice pair of shoes and some very good cologne.
You drive back home and relax for bit as you channel surf between ballgames and silly romantic comedies while taking an occasional text from the managers running the business. As an owner there’s no real day off.
As you relax you get a call from the beautiful woman with whom you plan to spend the evening. She makes small talk and seeks reassurance that the date will happen. You let her know that the plans are still on and to make sure she looks nice and beautiful. You tire of watching the games and comedies and decide to take a nap.
Later you wake up and put on a very dapper suit with a fitted shirt and matching shoes. The right amount of cologne is applied and you are ready to leave. Instead of taking your sports car you decide to drive your luxury car. After all you are going to a classy restaurant and play.
You pick up your date and her stunning beauty almost makes you lose your cool. Almost. She gasps as she looks at you from head to toe admiring the fresh haircut you got the day before, the nice suit, and the fly shoes.
You and your date go to one of the most exclusive restaurants in the city. The type of restaurant that doesn’t list prices because if you have to ask you can’t afford to pay. It’s also the type of establishment that one needs to make reservations for months in advance. You can show up at any time though because you got it like that.
You have a nice dinner and engage in stimulating banter with your date that is both intellectually and erotically intoxicating. After dinner you take her to the hottest play in town.
After the play you return to your place for a nightcap. You play soft jazz on your sound system and engage in a sensuous slow dance with your date. A dance that ends on your king size bed that sits on a solid oak frame.
That, my friend, is the good life.

Rom Wills

About Rom Wills

Rom Wills is a author, dating coach and a serial entrepreneur. He has authored several best selling books Nice Guys and Players, Sexual Chemistry, and Starting from Zero.

Rom is on a mission to make a difference in the lives of the people he touches.

Accessories Will Complete a Man’s Style.

Model showing off Rolex watch and bracelets

In my previous article I wrote about the importance of a man’s style. Style, as I wrote, is the great equalizer. An important element of a man’s style is the accessories he wears. The right accessories can make a man’s clothing choices pop or they can make him, for lack of a better word, corny. The right accessory can draw a beautiful woman’s attention. I’m going to tell a story.
I was at a relationship conference and I spied a very attractive young lady. She was extremely beautiful with a pleasant disposition. Many men tried to talk to her. She rebuffed the men in a polite manner. I was luckier. She actually approached me and asked questions about a pendant that I had around my neck. A simple piece of jewelry drew a beautiful woman’s attention.
Jewelry and other accessories are the finishing touches to a man’s style. A man has to pick out his accessories as carefully as he picks out the rest of his wardrobe. In doing so he needs to start at the top and work his way down.
A very important accessory is the glasses if a man needs them. Depending on the shape of a man’s head a nice pair of glasses can enhance his physical features. I’ve known men who didn’t need glasses to wear them to enhance their look. The key with glasses is for them to blend in with your face. They should fit perfectly and not obscure prominent features. This is an important consideration. A man with nice eyes, eyelashes, or prominent cheekbones shouldn’t cover them up. The key is to have the glasses enhance the look and not take anything away.
As I mentioned jewelry is a key accessory. Some men choose to wear earrings. The earrings should fit in nicely with a man’s face. If a man is in a business suit the earrings should be understated. When he is in a more relaxed or festive environment the earrings can be flashier.
As mentioned earlier pendants worn around the neck can attract attention from beautiful women. My suggestion would be to wear just one or a simple chain. Some men may choose to go overboard and wear several pendants and chains. I’ve known men to wear so many that one would wonder how they managed to keep their neck up. Keep it simple around the neck.
A very important accessory for a man is a watch. The watch doesn’t have to be expensive. It shouldn’t look like it was bought at a flea market either. When getting a watch make sure it fits your overall style. When purchasing the watch have it sized by a professional jeweler so that it fits just right. It shouldn’t fit too tight and it shouldn’t be too loose. I’ve seen both and it’s not a good look either way.
Many men have taken to wearing beaded bracelets. Two things to consider. One the bracelets should generally match the watch in style and color. If you wear an expensive gold watch, bracelets with rainbow colors might not work. Two, in general the bracelets should be worn on the opposite wrist from the watch. Now this isn’t an ironclad rule because some men wear the watch with bracelets on the same wrist. It comes down to personal style.
Many men wear rings other than wedding rings. A nice ring can set off a look. A man shouldn’t have multiple rings as this is something women do and quite frankly it looks tacky on a man. Like everything else the rings should flow nicely with the rest of the outfit.
Any man developing his style needs to be very meticulous in how he wears his accessories. He can have a sharp suit, shirt, shoes, and a great haircut but be thrown off because of glasses too big for his face, too much jewelry, multiple rings, and by not wearing a watch. Every piece must be in place for a man’s style to make a statement.

Rom Wills

About Rom Wills

Rom Wills is a author, dating coach and a serial entrepreneur. He has authored several best selling books Nice Guys and Players, Sexual Chemistry, and Starting from Zero.

Rom is on a mission to make a difference in the lives of the people he touches.

Developing Your Style

model wearing beautiful orange over coat

As I stated in my last article style is very important. A man who has not been blessed by the genetic lottery can make up for it developing a dynamic style. The beauty of style is that anyone can develop one. It’s a matter of a person being true to themselves and what they want to present to the world.
The first consideration with style is that is a reflection of a man’s personality. What a man wears should reflect who he is, his philosophy in life, his status, and where he wants to go in life. A man has to mindful of his grooming, the fit of his clothes, the colors he wears, and his overall presentation. So in developing his style a man must look at each element of his style. He has to start with grooming.
I shouldn’t have to write about grooming but looking at many men I have to mention this. The main thing with grooming is simply taking daily showers. As I will explain in a second a man must smell good to a woman. Once a man is clean then he must decide what to do with his facial hair. Depending on the man’s social standing he may decide to wear facial hair or be clean shaven. He also has to decide on the length of his hair. If he is in an environment that includes biker bars he may choose to wear his hair and beard long. If he works in a conservative corporate environment he may be clean shaven with a conservative haircut.
The types of colognes and aftershaves a man uses are very important. Women like to smell a man. A woman will look at a man’s picture and say, “I bet he smells good.” A man must practice putting the right amount of cologne on. Too little is a waste and too much is overkill. Also the cologne should be the type that women find enticing.
The next thing is everyday clothes. Of course clothing should be appropriate to the environment. Outside of that the clothes should fit properly. In most cases clothes suited to a man’s physique should be worn. This is a general statement. There are two special considerations that should be taken into account.
A man who wears dress shirts and suits should always wear fitted clothes. With dress shirts, fitted or athletic cut shirts are the best. Regular shirts are intentionally loose around the waist and when tucked in will have a baggy appearance which isn’t flattering if a man’s suit jacket is off. Fitted and athletic cut dress shirts have a smoother and neater look.
Related to this are suits. Though it’s popular to get off the rack suits, a man should always have any suits he purchases tailored to his body build. Once again it’s a cleaner look and for men with above average physiques the style projects an attractive presentation to women.
The second special consideration is that men should wear colors that complement their skin tone. A man may like a purple shirt but it may not look good on him. A man while buying clothes will have, in most cases, sales people who can help him determine what looks good on him. Also once he buys the clothes many women will give him feedback on how he looks. Sometimes even their silence can speak volumes.
Finally the shoes. Men must take care with shoes. Women may ignore everything else but they will pay attention to shoes. Now this isn’t to say that a man has to wear name brand shoes. They do need to be clean and not rundown looking. Also to take care of dress shoes a shoe shine kit should have an honored place in every man’s home.
Developing a distinct style is very important for men. Not only to attract beautiful women but for a sense of well-being and power in this thing we called life.

Rom Wills

About The Author

Rom Wills is a author, dating coach and a serial entrepreneur. He has authored several best selling books Nice Guys and Players, Sexual Chemistry, and Starting from Zero.

Rom is on a mission to make a difference in the lives of the people he touches.