Food, Fashion, and Fun

Couple dining out and having fun

About a year or so ago maybe more, a friend of mine discussed “the spark”. What makes two people connect past mindless chatter and physicality. What is the secret recipe that yields the “cuddle hormone” – that surge of chemicals that leaves us longing for more. The answer to this age-old question, according to my friends, was simple. Food, Fashion, and Fun. Henceforth known as the 3Fs. Now, this may sound superficial at first read but continue to read and it will make sense.

If you think about it our greatest moments are connected to the 3Fs. Memories are a compilation of the senses, what you see, smell, taste, hear and touch. A good first date or a bad first date is tied to a moment and an emotion. Our senses help to solidify that moment and emotion as wanting more of it or avoid it. For instance, when something bad or good happens to us and we recant the story sometimes it is as if we are experiencing the moment. We smile or grimace depending on the issue. Back to the 3Fs and how this concept lays the basis for perfect connection.

Food: What’s a date without food? Dinner and a movie or Netflix and chill. Good food leads to good conversation. Food is the greatest aphrodisiac. The smell alone is inviting and depending on where you are the ambiance can be sexy or soothing. Even if you are cooking together at home, the act of preparing the food can be sensual. Moreover, you can learn a great deal about someone from how they cook or what they order. Does he take time to cut and dice an onion? Is she neat? Does she take the time to clean the kitchen after cooking or leave dishes in the sink? Is he a planner? Did he take time to gather all of the ingredients and necessary the accouterments?

Fashion: Fashion does not equate to Gucci, Prada, Fendi but what is it about that persons looks that draws you in. His cologne drifting through the air or the click of her heels against a marble floor. It’s the way he pulls off that jogging suit on the fly that isn’t even a name brand. It’s the ways he walks into the room and exudes confidence. It’s the way her hair is swept over her shoulder or the perfectly unperfected shade of fingernail polish you notice when she text. It’s his smooth skin that that seems to glow as the sun shines on him through the slats of the living room blinds. You can see how these moments are tied to an emotion and how that emotion leads to longing.

Fun: The last F but certainly not the least but it is the preverbal sugar on top. Fun is like a checking account. The more fun you have the more positive experiences you create. The more positive experiences you create together the more you are going to want to be together. Fun gives you something to look forward to. After fighting with the world Monday- Friday, the last thing you look forward to is more of the same. Fun is that bright spot at the end of a long week whether it’s planned or spontaneous. I heard a story once about a young woman who for one week straight texted a riddle to a man that she was dating. The riddle was based upon certain locations in the city and if the riddle was answered they would meet at the proposed location. The riddle was such a success between the pair that they decided to do it at least monthly. It gave them both something to look forward to and helped to cultivate “the spark.” Are you getting enough Food, Fashion, and Fun in your day?

 

About The Author

Dr. Beatrice Love is a licensed professional counselor by day and a writer at night. Her passion for helping people in all aspects of life is a major motivation for her when she writes.

 

 

 

 

Becoming a Man.

Black suit and white shirt with black stripes.
The Founder & Owner of Luxe Tailored | Theodore R. Cox Jr.

I have written quite a few articles on the importance of style. The key thing to remember about style is that it is irrelevant if the man underneath the style is underdeveloped. We’ve all seen men who had nice clothes and material goods but had a poor character. Having all the accessories in the world are useless if the man underneath has a rotten soul.
A man seeking to develop himself must start from the inside and work his way out. The man must start with his character. His character is a combination of his personality and his principles. Regarding his personality, he has to be comfortable with his natural temperament. If he is extraverted he must be comfortable with that. If he is introverted he must be comfortable with that. As long as his personality doesn’t cause him to harm himself or others he must embrace who he is. Having a harmful personality brings me to another important point about manhood. A man must have a code of living.
A man’s personality is what he is born with. A man’s code is what he develops. A man’s code represents the principles he develops to guide how he interacts with the environment in which he lives. A man’s code represents how he deals with people. His code informs him on how he will treat them and what he will tolerate. A man’s code also represents how he will fulfill his life purpose.
All men need a purpose in their lives. The very nature of masculine energy is that it empowers an individual to take action. Masculine energy agitates the man it flows through to do something. A man can focus this energy through a life purpose. He has to have something that he wants to accomplish in life. In developing that purpose a man has to have a code as to what he will and will not do to accomplish that purpose.
The key in having a code is that it is something that a man must enforce through self-discipline. Many males walk through life having their actions controlled by forces outside of themselves. Those forces on a physical level are laws enforced by the police and military. On a mental level behavior is enforced through religion and other cultural mores. For the man to truly be a man he must develop his own code that is enforced through his own self-discipline. Only then is he truly a man.
At the core of who he is a man must be authentic. He has to be able to show people who he is. Many males wear the mask of a man but when they reach the crossroads they fail. The mask can only get a man so far. In order to really be a man he must not be afraid to show his face. This is in the face of anything. He must be a man in the streets and on the job. He must be a man on the ball court and in the bedroom.
The style and accessories are important but at the core it is always about the man.

Rom Wills

About Rom Wills

Rom Wills is a author, dating coach and a serial entrepreneur. He has authored several best selling books Nice Guys and Players, Sexual Chemistry, and Starting from Zero.

Rom is on a mission to make a difference in the lives of the people he touches.

Your Spot is Part of Your Style

bachelor-bedroom

So you’re out with a nice young lady. There’s a real vibe between the two of you. She likes your look and style. The date has gone real well. You ask her to come home with you. She is feeling you so she happily agrees. You get to your apartment, condo, house, or wherever you live. The young lady is smiling as she walks in. That smile turns to a frown.
First of all the place is a mess. There are literally clothes and loose trash all over the place. There are dirty dishes in the kitchen. The couch looks like it was pulled off the street. She asks to go the bathroom and it smells like it hasn’t been cleaned in weeks. The bathroom is next to the bedroom and she happens to peak in because women are nosy like that. She sees clothes strewn all over the room and also on top of the air mattress. She is disappointed. The type of bed a man has makes a difference.
You try to get romantic but the young lady is no longer in the mood. As women would say she got instant dryness. A promising evening has come to a screeching halt.
I’ve talked about a man getting his body and his style together. A man’s place is part of his style. Whether a man lives in a mansion or a room at someone’s house he needs to make sure his place is hooked up. The environment a man has sex in is just as important in seducing a woman as his style and conversation. Before a man thinks about bringing a woman to his home he needs to take care of a few things.
The first thing is simply keep the place clean especially the bathroom. In fact women may let some mess go but definitely take care of the bathroom. Make sure the entire place smells nice. I have incense I burn to keep a nice aroma. In warmer weather keep the windows open as much as possible even at night depending on the type of home you have.
For furniture don’t have dingy or beat up furniture. Even if you did get the couch off the street invest in getting it professionally cleaned. If necessary get an inexpensive Futon from places like Walmart or Target until you can get something better. A Futon can even look fly depending on the place. You can even get an inexpensive dining set so everything looks clean and straight.
Take into consideration the blinds and shades you have at your place. It goes without saying that they should match. Also consider some type of artwork that reflects your personality. Artwork can also be a conversation piece. If you’re a reader definitely have a nice book case.
One thing to keep in mind is that when a woman enters your space she will look around to get an idea about who you are as person. Women are either turned on or turned off by a man’s space. A man must take great care in how his living space is presented.

Rom Wills

About Rom Wills

Rom Wills is a author, dating coach and a serial entrepreneur. He has authored several best selling books Nice Guys and Players, Sexual Chemistry, and Starting from Zero.

Rom is on a mission to make a difference in the lives of the people he touches.

The Good Life

luxury lifestyle

Sit down and imagine the following scenario.
You rise in the morning from your king size bed that sits on a solid oak frame after having a good night’s sleep. It’s a Saturday morning after a great week for your business. You walk into your bathroom next to your bedroom to shower and groom yourself. Once you finish you go into your huge walk-in closet to find something to wear during the day. You settle on a nice custom polo shirt and a nice pair of jeans and some walking shoes.
You walk into the spacious kitchen to fix and eat a nutritious breakfast. You sit down at the kitchen table with your smartphone to check texts from the managers at your business. Everything is going well. While eating you check your various back accounts and stock portfolios. The money is flowing nicely.
You walk into your living room and turn on your big screen TV to check on what’s happening in the world. Satisfied that the world is still the chaotic place it was the night before you turn off the TV and turn on your sound system that plays some soft jazz. You sit and contemplate what you need to do for the day.
You decide to go for a drive in your late model sports car. It’s a sunny day out. Perfect for a ride through the country side. As you are out you stop by a shopping mall to get a few things from a high end men’s store. You pick out an expensive suit that will be tailored and ready for you in a few days for an important presentation. You get a nice pair of shoes and some very good cologne.
You drive back home and relax for bit as you channel surf between ballgames and silly romantic comedies while taking an occasional text from the managers running the business. As an owner there’s no real day off.
As you relax you get a call from the beautiful woman with whom you plan to spend the evening. She makes small talk and seeks reassurance that the date will happen. You let her know that the plans are still on and to make sure she looks nice and beautiful. You tire of watching the games and comedies and decide to take a nap.
Later you wake up and put on a very dapper suit with a fitted shirt and matching shoes. The right amount of cologne is applied and you are ready to leave. Instead of taking your sports car you decide to drive your luxury car. After all you are going to a classy restaurant and play.
You pick up your date and her stunning beauty almost makes you lose your cool. Almost. She gasps as she looks at you from head to toe admiring the fresh haircut you got the day before, the nice suit, and the fly shoes.
You and your date go to one of the most exclusive restaurants in the city. The type of restaurant that doesn’t list prices because if you have to ask you can’t afford to pay. It’s also the type of establishment that one needs to make reservations for months in advance. You can show up at any time though because you got it like that.
You have a nice dinner and engage in stimulating banter with your date that is both intellectually and erotically intoxicating. After dinner you take her to the hottest play in town.
After the play you return to your place for a nightcap. You play soft jazz on your sound system and engage in a sensuous slow dance with your date. A dance that ends on your king size bed that sits on a solid oak frame.
That, my friend, is the good life.

Rom Wills

About Rom Wills

Rom Wills is a author, dating coach and a serial entrepreneur. He has authored several best selling books Nice Guys and Players, Sexual Chemistry, and Starting from Zero.

Rom is on a mission to make a difference in the lives of the people he touches.

She wants Muscle!

Denise Milani in Bikini on the Beach

Hello everyone!

I want to take up a little bit of your time this morning, to reiterate how important it is for you guys to develop a workout plan that fits into your hectic schedule.

I know it is tough getting started gentleman but remember it will get easier for you the more you stick to the routine. Another important thing to remember is you do not have to spend countless hours in the gym to get results.

Schedule one hour three times a week for yourself and remember you do not have to limit yourself to the gym and weight training.

I live on the east coast the winters can be brutal. It can be tough to do a lot outside during the winter months. I use this time to focus more on weight training and strengthening my core. I still work on my cardio. I tend to lose my motivation to go hard during this time.

For the guys who live in places were the weather is warm throughout the year. You have no excuses. Get up and take advantage of your situation.

Invest in a good pair of running shoes and find a safe place to start to walk and if you are clear medically pick up your pace gradually to a light jog and before you know it you will be running. If running is not your thing get yourself a bike and be sure to also invest in a helmet.

Your initial goal should simply be to get more active and to invest more of your time into developing yourself physically and mentally.

Women prefer men who are visibly fit.

I know want you are thinking to yourself right now. You are probably saying that is not true.

Women are not shallow like us men. They look at other things like your personality, and if you can make them laugh.

I’m not saying that women do not take those things into consideration as well. We have got to be honest with each other. If a woman is not turned on by you physically. It is going to be a real challenge for you to get her to see you as a potential lover and not just a friend.

The best way to increase your sexual desirability is to be more active in your life. Not only will you begin to look and feel better. You will notice and increase in your self esteem and confidence.

There also health benefits as well. I mean working out should not be all about attracting the opposite sex.

High blood pressure is one of the biggest killers in the Western world. As your blood pressure rises. The risk for heart disease and you having a stroke rises as well. Studies have found that exercise reduces the risk of high blood pressure (i.e., hypertension).

I am going to get off my soapbox now.

Hey guys enjoy the rest of your day and take the time to work on you!

Style is the Great Equalizer

Best style tips that will get the attention of beautiful women| Made to measure suits and shirts.
Best style tips that will get the attention of beautiful women| Made to measure suits and shirts.

In the game of man gets woman the general consensus is that a man needs one of two things to get a woman. They either need to be very good looking or have the ability to connect with women via great conversation. It’s hard to argue with either one of these strategies. We have all seen women swoon over very good looking men. At the same time we have seen men who may not have blessed by the genetic lottery manage to get very attractive women. People will call it game, convo, rap, or a mouthpiece. So what about the men who are not very good looking and are not blessed with the gift of gab?
A reality is that only a small percentage of men have the type of looks that cause a woman to want to have sex with them like that. Indeed men with those types of looks tend to be rare. On the other hand the number of men with the gift of gab is relatively small as well. Most men are good if they can have an intelligent and entertaining conversation with a few women in their social circle, let alone a variety of women in different settings.
Despite lacking great looks and superior conversation skills there are many men who still manage to meet and date attractive women. The thing that these men have is style. A man’s style is the great equalizer. What do I mean when I say style?
At some point in history these was a man who realized that he wasn’t the hunk that women would go crazy over because of sheer physical appeal. That same man also realized that when he spoke to women he didn’t get the same reactions as a few other men. This pioneer discovered the great equalizer by accident. He must have been walking around wearing animal fur different from all the other men. He also had a string of animal fangs hanging around his neck. He noticed that the attractive women started paying more attention to him. He was able to start mating with these women. The man discovered style.
A man’s style is based on a combination of his grooming, clothing, and accessories. Women go just as crazy and maybe even crazier over a man who has style. I remember when I was in a retail store one time speaking with a friend who was a sales clerk. She and a few other female clerks were going crazy over a man who was wearing a beard, lumberjack style clothes, and a tattoo sleeve on his arm. They said the man’s looks was average but his style was outstanding.
A man can compete with the hunks, and smooth talkers if he has the right haircut, eyeglass frames, shirt, suit, pants, coat, and especially shoes. Some women will reject or accept a man based on nothing but his shoes. Women really appreciate a man’s style. The beauty of it is that any man can develop a style.
The old school players and pimps knew this. That’s why they dressed the way they did. Even now many players are clothes hounds. They know that with the right look and also fragrance that had a strong chance at getting the women they desired. Every single man must develop a signature style.

Rom Wills

About Rom Wills

Rom Wills is a author, dating coach and a serial entrepreneur.  He has authored several best selling books Nice Guys and Players, Sexual Chemistry, and Starting from Zero.

Rom is on a mission to make a difference in the lives of the people he touches.