Food, Fashion, and Fun

Couple dining out and having fun

About a year or so ago maybe more, a friend of mine discussed “the spark”. What makes two people connect past mindless chatter and physicality. What is the secret recipe that yields the “cuddle hormone” – that surge of chemicals that leaves us longing for more. The answer to this age-old question, according to my friends, was simple. Food, Fashion, and Fun. Henceforth known as the 3Fs. Now, this may sound superficial at first read but continue to read and it will make sense.

If you think about it our greatest moments are connected to the 3Fs. Memories are a compilation of the senses, what you see, smell, taste, hear and touch. A good first date or a bad first date is tied to a moment and an emotion. Our senses help to solidify that moment and emotion as wanting more of it or avoid it. For instance, when something bad or good happens to us and we recant the story sometimes it is as if we are experiencing the moment. We smile or grimace depending on the issue. Back to the 3Fs and how this concept lays the basis for perfect connection.

Food: What’s a date without food? Dinner and a movie or Netflix and chill. Good food leads to good conversation. Food is the greatest aphrodisiac. The smell alone is inviting and depending on where you are the ambiance can be sexy or soothing. Even if you are cooking together at home, the act of preparing the food can be sensual. Moreover, you can learn a great deal about someone from how they cook or what they order. Does he take time to cut and dice an onion? Is she neat? Does she take the time to clean the kitchen after cooking or leave dishes in the sink? Is he a planner? Did he take time to gather all of the ingredients and necessary the accouterments?

Fashion: Fashion does not equate to Gucci, Prada, Fendi but what is it about that persons looks that draws you in. His cologne drifting through the air or the click of her heels against a marble floor. It’s the way he pulls off that jogging suit on the fly that isn’t even a name brand. It’s the ways he walks into the room and exudes confidence. It’s the way her hair is swept over her shoulder or the perfectly unperfected shade of fingernail polish you notice when she text. It’s his smooth skin that that seems to glow as the sun shines on him through the slats of the living room blinds. You can see how these moments are tied to an emotion and how that emotion leads to longing.

Fun: The last F but certainly not the least but it is the preverbal sugar on top. Fun is like a checking account. The more fun you have the more positive experiences you create. The more positive experiences you create together the more you are going to want to be together. Fun gives you something to look forward to. After fighting with the world Monday- Friday, the last thing you look forward to is more of the same. Fun is that bright spot at the end of a long week whether it’s planned or spontaneous. I heard a story once about a young woman who for one week straight texted a riddle to a man that she was dating. The riddle was based upon certain locations in the city and if the riddle was answered they would meet at the proposed location. The riddle was such a success between the pair that they decided to do it at least monthly. It gave them both something to look forward to and helped to cultivate “the spark.” Are you getting enough Food, Fashion, and Fun in your day?

 

About The Author

Dr. Beatrice Love is a licensed professional counselor by day and a writer at night. Her passion for helping people in all aspects of life is a major motivation for her when she writes.

 

 

 

 

Becoming a Man.

Black suit and white shirt with black stripes.
The Founder & Owner of Luxe Tailored | Theodore R. Cox Jr.

I have written quite a few articles on the importance of style. The key thing to remember about style is that it is irrelevant if the man underneath the style is underdeveloped. We’ve all seen men who had nice clothes and material goods but had a poor character. Having all the accessories in the world are useless if the man underneath has a rotten soul.
A man seeking to develop himself must start from the inside and work his way out. The man must start with his character. His character is a combination of his personality and his principles. Regarding his personality, he has to be comfortable with his natural temperament. If he is extraverted he must be comfortable with that. If he is introverted he must be comfortable with that. As long as his personality doesn’t cause him to harm himself or others he must embrace who he is. Having a harmful personality brings me to another important point about manhood. A man must have a code of living.
A man’s personality is what he is born with. A man’s code is what he develops. A man’s code represents the principles he develops to guide how he interacts with the environment in which he lives. A man’s code represents how he deals with people. His code informs him on how he will treat them and what he will tolerate. A man’s code also represents how he will fulfill his life purpose.
All men need a purpose in their lives. The very nature of masculine energy is that it empowers an individual to take action. Masculine energy agitates the man it flows through to do something. A man can focus this energy through a life purpose. He has to have something that he wants to accomplish in life. In developing that purpose a man has to have a code as to what he will and will not do to accomplish that purpose.
The key in having a code is that it is something that a man must enforce through self-discipline. Many males walk through life having their actions controlled by forces outside of themselves. Those forces on a physical level are laws enforced by the police and military. On a mental level behavior is enforced through religion and other cultural mores. For the man to truly be a man he must develop his own code that is enforced through his own self-discipline. Only then is he truly a man.
At the core of who he is a man must be authentic. He has to be able to show people who he is. Many males wear the mask of a man but when they reach the crossroads they fail. The mask can only get a man so far. In order to really be a man he must not be afraid to show his face. This is in the face of anything. He must be a man in the streets and on the job. He must be a man on the ball court and in the bedroom.
The style and accessories are important but at the core it is always about the man.

Rom Wills

About Rom Wills

Rom Wills is a author, dating coach and a serial entrepreneur. He has authored several best selling books Nice Guys and Players, Sexual Chemistry, and Starting from Zero.

Rom is on a mission to make a difference in the lives of the people he touches.

The Good Life

luxury lifestyle

Sit down and imagine the following scenario.
You rise in the morning from your king size bed that sits on a solid oak frame after having a good night’s sleep. It’s a Saturday morning after a great week for your business. You walk into your bathroom next to your bedroom to shower and groom yourself. Once you finish you go into your huge walk-in closet to find something to wear during the day. You settle on a nice custom polo shirt and a nice pair of jeans and some walking shoes.
You walk into the spacious kitchen to fix and eat a nutritious breakfast. You sit down at the kitchen table with your smartphone to check texts from the managers at your business. Everything is going well. While eating you check your various back accounts and stock portfolios. The money is flowing nicely.
You walk into your living room and turn on your big screen TV to check on what’s happening in the world. Satisfied that the world is still the chaotic place it was the night before you turn off the TV and turn on your sound system that plays some soft jazz. You sit and contemplate what you need to do for the day.
You decide to go for a drive in your late model sports car. It’s a sunny day out. Perfect for a ride through the country side. As you are out you stop by a shopping mall to get a few things from a high end men’s store. You pick out an expensive suit that will be tailored and ready for you in a few days for an important presentation. You get a nice pair of shoes and some very good cologne.
You drive back home and relax for bit as you channel surf between ballgames and silly romantic comedies while taking an occasional text from the managers running the business. As an owner there’s no real day off.
As you relax you get a call from the beautiful woman with whom you plan to spend the evening. She makes small talk and seeks reassurance that the date will happen. You let her know that the plans are still on and to make sure she looks nice and beautiful. You tire of watching the games and comedies and decide to take a nap.
Later you wake up and put on a very dapper suit with a fitted shirt and matching shoes. The right amount of cologne is applied and you are ready to leave. Instead of taking your sports car you decide to drive your luxury car. After all you are going to a classy restaurant and play.
You pick up your date and her stunning beauty almost makes you lose your cool. Almost. She gasps as she looks at you from head to toe admiring the fresh haircut you got the day before, the nice suit, and the fly shoes.
You and your date go to one of the most exclusive restaurants in the city. The type of restaurant that doesn’t list prices because if you have to ask you can’t afford to pay. It’s also the type of establishment that one needs to make reservations for months in advance. You can show up at any time though because you got it like that.
You have a nice dinner and engage in stimulating banter with your date that is both intellectually and erotically intoxicating. After dinner you take her to the hottest play in town.
After the play you return to your place for a nightcap. You play soft jazz on your sound system and engage in a sensuous slow dance with your date. A dance that ends on your king size bed that sits on a solid oak frame.
That, my friend, is the good life.

Rom Wills

About Rom Wills

Rom Wills is a author, dating coach and a serial entrepreneur. He has authored several best selling books Nice Guys and Players, Sexual Chemistry, and Starting from Zero.

Rom is on a mission to make a difference in the lives of the people he touches.

A Natural Way to Maintain Your Sexual Virility.

Brazil Nuts can help maintain male sexual virility
Brazil Nuts is a natural testosterone Booster.

Greetings everyone!

I wanted to take a little time out today and talk to you guys about some of the benefits of incorporating Brazil nuts into you daily diet.

Outside of a few select athletes, physician and health gurus. Most people do not know how Brazil nuts can help men maintain their sexual virility.

Brazil nuts are not only rich in minerals, vitamins, proteins as well as selenium.

Selenium is a antioxidant that can help you improve your sexual performance, protect against cancer, and boost your metabolism.

Not bad right? Guess what the Brazil nut is packed with it.

I think a major part of a man maintaining a healthy lifestyle is having a high level of sexual confidence.

I can tell you from experience that your diet will play a major role in how you feel overall as man.

As well as how you are perceived by the opposite sex.

I have done my own research and I can see a difference in how I feel and my performance.

I have been eating at least six Brazil nuts a day.

Three in the morning and three at night before bed.

Now of course this is not all you have to do gentleman.

There is nothing that will replace the importance of developing your own workout routine as well as changing your overall diet.

Here is a list of the five reasons why I think you should make it a habit of eating these little gems every day.

  • Increases Natural Testosterone Levels
  • Improves sperm motility and reduces infertility (among men)
  • Essential micro-nutrient for male reproductive system (testes)
  • Excellent source of omega-6 fatty acids, and
  • Nutrient dense food containing many essential nutrients and vitamins

Hopefully this article will motivate you guys to get up and do your own research on the powerful Brazil nut and how it will benefit you.

Please before you start to do any strenuous physical exercises consult your physician.