Becoming a Man.

Black suit and white shirt with black stripes.
The Founder & Owner of Luxe Tailored | Theodore R. Cox Jr.

I have written quite a few articles on the importance of style. The key thing to remember about style is that it is irrelevant if the man underneath the style is underdeveloped. We’ve all seen men who had nice clothes and material goods but had a poor character. Having all the accessories in the world are useless if the man underneath has a rotten soul.
A man seeking to develop himself must start from the inside and work his way out. The man must start with his character. His character is a combination of his personality and his principles. Regarding his personality, he has to be comfortable with his natural temperament. If he is extraverted he must be comfortable with that. If he is introverted he must be comfortable with that. As long as his personality doesn’t cause him to harm himself or others he must embrace who he is. Having a harmful personality brings me to another important point about manhood. A man must have a code of living.
A man’s personality is what he is born with. A man’s code is what he develops. A man’s code represents the principles he develops to guide how he interacts with the environment in which he lives. A man’s code represents how he deals with people. His code informs him on how he will treat them and what he will tolerate. A man’s code also represents how he will fulfill his life purpose.
All men need a purpose in their lives. The very nature of masculine energy is that it empowers an individual to take action. Masculine energy agitates the man it flows through to do something. A man can focus this energy through a life purpose. He has to have something that he wants to accomplish in life. In developing that purpose a man has to have a code as to what he will and will not do to accomplish that purpose.
The key in having a code is that it is something that a man must enforce through self-discipline. Many males walk through life having their actions controlled by forces outside of themselves. Those forces on a physical level are laws enforced by the police and military. On a mental level behavior is enforced through religion and other cultural mores. For the man to truly be a man he must develop his own code that is enforced through his own self-discipline. Only then is he truly a man.
At the core of who he is a man must be authentic. He has to be able to show people who he is. Many males wear the mask of a man but when they reach the crossroads they fail. The mask can only get a man so far. In order to really be a man he must not be afraid to show his face. This is in the face of anything. He must be a man in the streets and on the job. He must be a man on the ball court and in the bedroom.
The style and accessories are important but at the core it is always about the man.

Rom Wills

About Rom Wills

Rom Wills is a author, dating coach and a serial entrepreneur. He has authored several best selling books Nice Guys and Players, Sexual Chemistry, and Starting from Zero.

Rom is on a mission to make a difference in the lives of the people he touches.

The Body is the Foundation

Man running on treadmill

So I’ve talked about style as the great equalizer for men whose looks won’t get them a modeling contract. So a man gets a fly haircut, glasses, a tailored suit, and nice shoes. The clothes and accessories look good but the ladies are still not swooning. The style is great but the man wearing the style is not in the best shape possible. The key to understanding style is that it is an enhancer for the physique.
Contrary to popular belief a handsome face is not the part of a man that attracts women the most. Yes women like a handsome face but it doesn’t always guarantee that women will feel an attraction. Truth be told many women prefer a man with a decent looking face because women prefer to have the best looking face in a couple. What turns on a woman the most is a man’s physique.
There have been studies that have shown that women have a strong attraction for a man’s upper body. Women go crazy over a man’s shoulders, chest, and arms. A flat stomach is guaranteed to make a woman stop and look. Many women love seeing a man’s legs. The overall physique turns on women. What style does is magnify the effect the physique has on women. For this to happen men must focus on building their physique.
A man doesn’t have to be a professional bodybuilder but there are body parts he needs to work on. A core workout for any man should be the bench press and other exercises to build and sculpt the chest. Women like laying their heads on a strong chest. That’s just the beginning. It’s important that a man builds strong arms as they silently make a woman feel protected. Broad shoulders suggest that a man can “shoulder” responsibility. The abs are important because they not only look nice but they are the core of man’s body.
Now lifting weights is one thing but a man must also do at least nineties minutes of cardio every week. That’s a minimum. Not only does cardio help a man shed excess weight but it helps a man in the bedroom. The biggest complaint that many women have about men is that they don’t last long during sex. A man needs stamina to last longer than a few minutes. Also a man in good cardiovascular shape will have a better blood flow which in turns helps him to maintain a longer, time and length, erection. Many women prefer fit men for this reason.
Once the body is right that’s when a man can really develop his style. He can have his clothes tailored to his physique. Even casual clothes will look better on him. This is important because even clothes made in the same size will have different cuts depending on the designer. A man wants to have the best size cuts for his body.
A combination of a good physique and a great personal style will make any man more popular with the ladies. Also a great style can propel a man to great heights in life itself.

Rom Wills

About Rom Wills

Rom Wills is a author, dating coach and a serial entrepreneur. He has authored several best selling books Nice Guys and Players, Sexual Chemistry, and Starting from Zero.

Rom is on a mission to make a difference in the lives of the people he touches.