I have written quite a few articles on the importance of style. The key thing to remember about style is that it is irrelevant if the man underneath the style is underdeveloped. We’ve all seen men who had nice clothes and material goods but had a poor character. Having all the accessories in the world are useless if the man underneath has a rotten soul.
A man seeking to develop himself must start from the inside and work his way out. The man must start with his character. His character is a combination of his personality and his principles. Regarding his personality, he has to be comfortable with his natural temperament. If he is extraverted he must be comfortable with that. If he is introverted he must be comfortable with that. As long as his personality doesn’t cause him to harm himself or others he must embrace who he is. Having a harmful personality brings me to another important point about manhood. A man must have a code of living.
A man’s personality is what he is born with. A man’s code is what he develops. A man’s code represents the principles he develops to guide how he interacts with the environment in which he lives. A man’s code represents how he deals with people. His code informs him on how he will treat them and what he will tolerate. A man’s code also represents how he will fulfill his life purpose.
All men need a purpose in their lives. The very nature of masculine energy is that it empowers an individual to take action. Masculine energy agitates the man it flows through to do something. A man can focus this energy through a life purpose. He has to have something that he wants to accomplish in life. In developing that purpose a man has to have a code as to what he will and will not do to accomplish that purpose.
The key in having a code is that it is something that a man must enforce through self-discipline. Many males walk through life having their actions controlled by forces outside of themselves. Those forces on a physical level are laws enforced by the police and military. On a mental level behavior is enforced through religion and other cultural mores. For the man to truly be a man he must develop his own code that is enforced through his own self-discipline. Only then is he truly a man.
At the core of who he is a man must be authentic. He has to be able to show people who he is. Many males wear the mask of a man but when they reach the crossroads they fail. The mask can only get a man so far. In order to really be a man he must not be afraid to show his face. This is in the face of anything. He must be a man in the streets and on the job. He must be a man on the ball court and in the bedroom.
The style and accessories are important but at the core it is always about the man.
Sit down and imagine the following scenario.
You rise in the morning from your king size bed that sits on a solid oak frame after having a good night’s sleep. It’s a Saturday morning after a great week for your business. You walk into your bathroom next to your bedroom to shower and groom yourself. Once you finish you go into your huge walk-in closet to find something to wear during the day. You settle on a nice custom polo shirt and a nice pair of jeans and some walking shoes.
You walk into the spacious kitchen to fix and eat a nutritious breakfast. You sit down at the kitchen table with your smartphone to check texts from the managers at your business. Everything is going well. While eating you check your various back accounts and stock portfolios. The money is flowing nicely.
You walk into your living room and turn on your big screen TV to check on what’s happening in the world. Satisfied that the world is still the chaotic place it was the night before you turn off the TV and turn on your sound system that plays some soft jazz. You sit and contemplate what you need to do for the day.
You decide to go for a drive in your late model sports car. It’s a sunny day out. Perfect for a ride through the country side. As you are out you stop by a shopping mall to get a few things from a high end men’s store. You pick out an expensive suit that will be tailored and ready for you in a few days for an important presentation. You get a nice pair of shoes and some very good cologne.
You drive back home and relax for bit as you channel surf between ballgames and silly romantic comedies while taking an occasional text from the managers running the business. As an owner there’s no real day off.
As you relax you get a call from the beautiful woman with whom you plan to spend the evening. She makes small talk and seeks reassurance that the date will happen. You let her know that the plans are still on and to make sure she looks nice and beautiful. You tire of watching the games and comedies and decide to take a nap.
Later you wake up and put on a very dapper suit with a fitted shirt and matching shoes. The right amount of cologne is applied and you are ready to leave. Instead of taking your sports car you decide to drive your luxury car. After all you are going to a classy restaurant and play.
You pick up your date and her stunning beauty almost makes you lose your cool. Almost. She gasps as she looks at you from head to toe admiring the fresh haircut you got the day before, the nice suit, and the fly shoes.
You and your date go to one of the most exclusive restaurants in the city. The type of restaurant that doesn’t list prices because if you have to ask you can’t afford to pay. It’s also the type of establishment that one needs to make reservations for months in advance. You can show up at any time though because you got it like that.
You have a nice dinner and engage in stimulating banter with your date that is both intellectually and erotically intoxicating. After dinner you take her to the hottest play in town.
After the play you return to your place for a nightcap. You play soft jazz on your sound system and engage in a sensuous slow dance with your date. A dance that ends on your king size bed that sits on a solid oak frame.
That, my friend, is the good life.
So I’ve talked about style as the great equalizer for men whose looks won’t get them a modeling contract. So a man gets a fly haircut, glasses, a tailored suit, and nice shoes. The clothes and accessories look good but the ladies are still not swooning. The style is great but the man wearing the style is not in the best shape possible. The key to understanding style is that it is an enhancer for the physique.
Contrary to popular belief a handsome face is not the part of a man that attracts women the most. Yes women like a handsome face but it doesn’t always guarantee that women will feel an attraction. Truth be told many women prefer a man with a decent looking face because women prefer to have the best looking face in a couple. What turns on a woman the most is a man’s physique.
There have been studies that have shown that women have a strong attraction for a man’s upper body. Women go crazy over a man’s shoulders, chest, and arms. A flat stomach is guaranteed to make a woman stop and look. Many women love seeing a man’s legs. The overall physique turns on women. What style does is magnify the effect the physique has on women. For this to happen men must focus on building their physique.
A man doesn’t have to be a professional bodybuilder but there are body parts he needs to work on. A core workout for any man should be the bench press and other exercises to build and sculpt the chest. Women like laying their heads on a strong chest. That’s just the beginning. It’s important that a man builds strong arms as they silently make a woman feel protected. Broad shoulders suggest that a man can “shoulder” responsibility. The abs are important because they not only look nice but they are the core of man’s body.
Now lifting weights is one thing but a man must also do at least nineties minutes of cardio every week. That’s a minimum. Not only does cardio help a man shed excess weight but it helps a man in the bedroom. The biggest complaint that many women have about men is that they don’t last long during sex. A man needs stamina to last longer than a few minutes. Also a man in good cardiovascular shape will have a better blood flow which in turns helps him to maintain a longer, time and length, erection. Many women prefer fit men for this reason.
Once the body is right that’s when a man can really develop his style. He can have his clothes tailored to his physique. Even casual clothes will look better on him. This is important because even clothes made in the same size will have different cuts depending on the designer. A man wants to have the best size cuts for his body.
A combination of a good physique and a great personal style will make any man more popular with the ladies. Also a great style can propel a man to great heights in life itself.